If you spend any time in power-exchange spaces, you’ve probably seen the term FLR come up. It stands for Female-Led Relationship — but that simple definition barely scratches the surface.

In any power-exchange dynamic, clarity matters. Roles matter. Intent matters. And one of the most common sources of confusion—especially in newer or poorly negotiated dynamics—is topping from the bottom . This term gets thrown around casually, often as an insult. That’s a mistake. Understanding what it actually  is helps everyone maintain healthier, more intentional dynamics. Let’s break it down. What “Topping from the Bottom” Actually Means Topping from the bottom happens wh