BDSM is often described through power, control, surrender, discipline, pain, service, trust, and desire. All of those things may be part of a scene, but none of them should exist without safety. Safety does not make BDSM less intense. It makes intensity possible. A scene may be strict, sensual, playful, ceremonial, emotional, painful, quiet, or deeply intimate. But a scene should never be careless. The more powerful the exchange, the more responsibility is required from every