Steps for Dominants and Submissives Last week, I discussed why vetting matters before placing trust in someone within the BDSM community. Vetting is how we slow the process down long enough to look beyond titles, profile descriptions, chemistry, promises, and first impressions. It gives us time to examine whether someone’s behavior supports what they claim about themselves. This week, I want to take that conversation one step further. What does vetting actually look like? Vet

Before You Place Your Trust in Someone Vetting is often discussed as though it is something submissives do before agreeing to meet or play with a Dominant. That is only half of the conversation. Dominants should vet prospective submissives. Submissives should vet prospective Dominants. Switches should vet anyone they may enter a dynamic or scene with. Even experienced people should vet new partners rather than assuming years in the lifestyle automatically make someone trustwo